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Phase 1
As a new person you are a baby and you are used to be together with your mother. It is the habit to stay with her most of the time.
Then you grow up and you are a child with the desire for independency. You slowly get used to your own. You have your family and you never go to bed alone but there are more times you stay on your own.
The time as baby and child has the custom usually to not go to bed alone and you don’t know how this feels to be on your own.
Phase 2
Later as a young adult, you reached an independent life. You have your own space and beside of family, friends and may be a girl or boy friend you go to bed alone often. Some skip this phase and live together with a partner soon after you left your family but most of the people reach the custom to spend a lot of time on their own.
Phase 3
You have your own family and you usually spend the evening with your family. The phase 1 is now experienced from the other perspective. You have learnt as a child how this works and you can feel confident to do it right.
Phase 4
If you die before your partner does, you will not reach phase 4. For the others, the partner is gone and beside of friends, family and your own children, you get used to be alone often again as in phase 3.

From this point of view it gets on in an alternating way. There is no higher purpose behind this and it is just as it is. Nature lets it happen. These sort of rhythms are out of our consciousness. Our days are lead by worrying of resources, mostly money. We think of social relationships in a conscious way. We run life strategies and aim for targets. We want to survive and work hard on getting used to our human reality we perceive. We wonder what will happen and what are the own feasible desires.
As known, a lot of things which makes as tick are from an era we had a different kind of life. A time we had our conscious more focusing on life rhythms and the unknown forces deciding the weather. Deep in us is these instinctive way of life but we experience a different reality now. This is a conflict. We are in a transitional period to be formed by the way of life we formed. We get more used to our world instead of the time long ago which coined our instincts by nature.
That means in the future, we will change and more and more loose the ability to be in the nature. I think of an ant now. A single ant cannot survive alone. It has the basic abilities to survive but is unable to do that due to the fact of being coined for a life with big nest and in the large group.
There is a way back. Evolution can do this. But this only happens with a reason: a change of the environment. If this change is not to quick, ants could turn away from an animal group. Probably we humans would not enjoy this sort of chance. If the environment changes and we are not leading the world anymore, I mean we have to get used to nature again instead of getting used to our own creation, we will extinct in the same way a single ant lost in a foreign forest cannot survive.